Our Story
Hello! We are Johanna and
Michael Hernandez and that is a picture of our babies, our embryos.
We got married in May, 2011 and we've been trying to have a baby
since June, 2012. We always knew we'd want kids right away, but we
wanted to buy a home and get settled into a budget before we tried,
so we decided to wait a year. We were so excited to start trying,
and the women in my family have always gotten pregnant quickly, so we were
sure we'd have no problems having a baby right away. We tried everything
we could on our own, months of medicine, counting days, checking for ovulation,
tests and doctor’s appointments, until we were finally referred to a
specialist, an endocrinologist. We even
tried special diets, and products rumored to help infertility. But nothing worked. They told us, with
our combined issues, we wouldn't likely be able to have a baby on our own,
nearly impossible; they said we would need a lot of help. They were
right.
Or initial test results weren't
terrible, and the endocrinologists were optimistic. They thought we
should start with an Intrauterine Insemination (IUI). They were confident
that with the quality of our tests an IUI could be successful. IUI’s increase the odds of pregnancy from
1%-3%, with normal conception, to 5%-10%. They aren't terribly difficult
procedures, mostly just time and medicine, money and waiting. The
waiting is the hardest part emotionally, but the money is
hardest part logistically. Our insurance doesn't cover
infertility, so I got a second job and we set up a payment plan with the
clinic. Three IUI's later, we still weren't pregnant.
Each subsequent set of test results got worse. Michael’s sperm count, motility and morphology
went down with each IUI; we found cysts on my ovaries, I was developing polyps
from the treatments, and I had endometriosis. Our chances of conceiving with
an IUI went down, significantly. Each month got more and more
difficult. The doctors told me I needed to relax and minimize my stress.
But how do you do that? At the doctor’s recommendation we scheduled an In
Vitro Fertilization (IVF). IVF is much
more invasive than IUI’s and to prepare my body I needed shots every day. One shot in my stomach every morning and one
shot in my butt every night, for weeks to months depending on the success of
the IVF. The shots were painful to the
point of limiting my ability to walk, sit and stand without pain, but it would
all be worth it, if we got pregnant.
Just days before the IVF transfer, I
was laid off from my job. IVF costs $10,000. After having gone through everything we had
to get there, we just couldn’t cancel.
It was a risk that was well worth taking and we got pregnant! Nothing
could have made us happier! That picture of our embryos was now the first
picture of our babies. For the best month of our lives we were parents
and it seemed likely we would be blessed with twins! Then, at six weeks,
we lost the babies. We were devastated, it's impossible to express such
utterly complete heartbreak. They don't know what went wrong, just
that they were gone. They were sorry, but sometimes this happens.
And just like that, we weren't going to be parents anymore. After the
miscarriage, the doctor suggested surgery for the endometriosis; he said it
might decrease the chance of another miscarriage. The surgery was
successful, but showed only mild endometriosis.
Given the mildness of the endometriosis, the doctor wasn’t convinced it
played a large role in the miscarriage. Once I had healed, the doctor
said we should try a Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET). With this procedure, they use the “extra”
embryos from the IVF. They told us we
had to pay off the IVF before they would continue with FET, so we drained my
retirement funds and paid them off and tried for FET. Sadly, we did not
get pregnant. After that, we had exhausted all of our savings and we
were out of money, $13,000 later.
We have enough “extra” embryos for
two more FETs, just waiting for us. But we can't do anything without
money. I've gotten a good job since
then, and we want so badly to try again, but we just don't have the funds.
It is impossible to express what
your help would mean to Michael and me. How can we possibly convey
the gratitude of giving us a chance to have a baby? The gift of life is
without equal in this world. There are no words, no actions, no amount of
money that could ever repay your support and generosity. The only
thing we could do is dedicate ourselves to being the best parents we can be, to
having the most loved child anyone ever had. That we can guarantee.
What
We Need & What You Get
We're trying to raise $5,000 to help
pay for the medicine and costs of two FET procedures. Each FET costs between $1,500
and $2,000, combined with the medicine needed and the costs of monitoring; if
we reach our goal we'll be able to cover much of our costs. If we get
pregnant on our first FET, any additional money will be used for
pregnancy and labor and delivery costs. All of the money we raise
will go onto a medical card dedicated to paying for infertility, monitoring and
pregnancy costs.
All we have to offer you for your
help is our sincere gratitude, our fervent appreciation and our promise to be
amazing and loving parents. We promise to keep you updated on our
progress and share pictures of our beautiful and amazing children we know,
thanks to you all, we'll have someday!
Every dollar makes a difference, and
every dollar will be used to help cover infertility costs. Whether we
reach our goal now or not, we will keep saving until we have enough and we will
keep trying until we have a baby. Nothing is more important to us, and we
will continue to do everything within our power to have a baby.
The
Impact
Every day we see and hear about
people having kids 'by accident'. How lucky they are to have that
ability, when people like my husband and I, who desperately want to have a
family, have to struggle. We have worked to have a life we are proud
to bring a child into, and we have so much love to give to them, if only we had
the opportunity.
Other
Ways You Can Help
We know times are tough for
everyone. While every dollar counts, we also need help spreading the
word about our campaign. The more people we reach, the better chance we
have of attaining our goals. If you can share this with everyone you
know, you'd be helping us immensely! Sharing this link on any and every
social media outlet you have access to would be amazing.
Thank you all, for your time and support;
you'll never know how much it means to us!