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Help a victim of abuse

Help a victim of abuse

Help a victim of abuse

Help a victim of abuse

Help a victim of abuse

Jacki Miles
Jacki Miles
Jacki Miles
Jacki Miles
2 Campaigns |
New York, United States
$1,400 USD 4 backers
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I am a single mother of two children, who was brutally assaulted during my high risk pregnancy.

The assailant was my ex, the man I loved, which was the most difficult thing to comprehend.

I cannot reveal my identity due to legal reasons but I want to tell my story so I may hope that people may be touched by it and want to help me, somehow. We are in litigation. I need help in continuing this litigation as costs are high.

I will call my ex, Roger, for legal reasons. Roger tried to persuade me to abort our child when I learned of my pregnancy. I said I just couldn't do it. At 9 weeks he accompainied me to my scan, where we were told my pregnancy was high risk. Holding my hand, he said he would do all he could to help me and his child, get all tests needed for the baby (he required to do some genetic testing also due to one of my issues). I was referred to a perinatologist for my high risk pregnancy.

Two weeks later, at around 11 weeks, he invited me for dinner and movie. He was the most loving he had been in a while, charming, telling me how beautiful I was pregnant and how he was starting to get excited about the baby. I was moved and in love, and hopeful it would work out after all. He asked me back to his place, after we sat together talking through options of which doctor would deliver our child.

I arrived back at his place. Then the unthinkable happened. He grabbed me by the nape of my neck, he pushed me down on the bed. He sat on me. Straddling me and sitting on me with his legs pinning my arms to my sides, and still holding my face down into the pillow, he reached beside the side of the bed and I heard rustling. I tried to speak but was frozen. It all happened so fast. The next thing I knew, my eyes, mouth, hands and feet were taped up. I was restrained and unable to fight him. As he was doing this he said (I remember it clear as daylight) "Since you wouldn't abort the baby I have been fantasizing of hurting you". I was terrified. At one point, he took off his tee shirt and put it over my head and choked me. I thought I could die.

He assaulted me. He intentionally was attempting to make me miscarry.

Immediately after I was in a state of confusion and denial but as time goes on the message becomes clearer and clearer: He assaulted me in an attempt to make sure our son was never born. It was a planned, premeditated, attempted forced abortion.

He almost got his wish. I went to the ER where a hematoma (internal bleeding) was viewed in my uterus. It was right next to the baby. Within 6 weeks it grew to almost 5 cm's wide. This bleed bled (stabilized) for 3 months but a complication through hematomas is preterm labor. Mixed with the emotional angst I was going through, my body was steadily contracting from very early on.

I was hospitalized many, many times during my pregnancy and had to undergo many observations, being on an IV, shots to stop labor, and eventually for 3 months had to take a very strong heart medication which was to calm the uterus. This medication had horrible side effects.

Due to the safety of myself and the baby, they performed an amniocentisis at 36 weeks and delivered me early.

Our child, thank god, was born healthy and is in good health that we know of.

Roger came to the hospital to take a paternity test. There was nobody else, but he insisted and I was fine with him taking one. He held his child. I said to him 'this is your child, Roger, how do you feel?'. He replied he felt 'nothing' and returned the child to my arms. This devastated me. My sister saw first hand the devastation this man brought to my life.

Since that day, this man has dragged me through court, for 1.5 years for every single thing. He violated our court ordered support and made me spend 10's of thousands of dollars on trying to get him to pay for his child he has abandoned. I am in litigation regarding the assault and he is counter suing me for 4 million dollars for having the child. Yes, he is actually suing me for having the child yet I was the only responsible party regarding birth control. He was not.

I am left with quite a lot of medical bills and now, horrible legal bills.

I am hoping that human nature will recognize the heinous actions of this man, and see my struggle to defend myself against a man with psychopathic tendencies, and the horrible ordeal I have been through. I am appealing to men and women especially to those who have children, for anything they can donate to help me continue my case.

What hurts me the most: that a person would go so far to make sure his own child was never born. This is something I struggle with, when I look into the eyes of my child daily. He has seen his child a few times at court appearances, and doesn't even look at the child. He has callously told his attorney he 'hates' his toddler.

Thank you for reading and considering helping with with my legal fees. I would appreciate every single donation.

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